What is homesickness and why does it occur?
Homesickness is a completely normal feeling that occurs when people move away from their familiar environment. In children and adolescents, homesickness can be particularly intense because they are still learning to deal with new situations and their emotional security is often strongly connected to familiar places and people. As grandparents, you can help your grandchildren deal with homesickness by showing understanding and offering practical support.
When your grandchildren are on trips – whether with school, with friends, or with family – and get homesick, this is not a sign of weakness, but a natural reaction to separation from familiar people and places. Your grandchildren trust you and feel safe with you. When you show them that you are there for them, even when they are far away, you give them a sense of security and connection that helps them deal with homesickness.
Homesickness can occur on various occasions: on school trips, summer camps, visits to relatives, or also on longer trips with the family. Every child reacts differently to such situations. Some grandchildren have little homesickness, others suffer more from it. It is important that you as grandparents understand that homesickness is a real emotion that should be taken seriously. When you help your grandchildren deal with homesickness, you not only strengthen their emotional resilience, but also show them that their feelings are important and that they can always rely on you.
Definition and causes
Homesickness is a feeling of longing for home, for familiar people, places, and routines. It arises when people are in a new, unfamiliar environment and feel the need for security and familiarity. In children and adolescents, homesickness is particularly common because they are still developing their emotional stability and rely on familiar caregivers.
The causes of homesickness can be varied: separation from parents, siblings, or grandparents, the absence of familiar routines, the unfamiliarity of a new environment, or also the fear of missing something. As grandparents, you can help your grandchildren understand and accept these feelings. When you show that homesickness is normal and that it is okay to long for home, you help your grandchildren deal with these emotions.
It is important that homesickness does not mean that the trip or stay is bad. It simply means that your grandchildren have a strong connection to their home and to the people they love. This connection is something positive and shows how important family and home are to your grandchildren. When you value and support this connection, you help your grandchildren both enjoy the trip and accept the longing for home.
Why homesickness is normal in children
Homesickness is completely normal in children and adolescents and no cause for concern. It shows that your grandchildren have strong emotional bonds to their home and to their caregivers. These bonds are important for the healthy emotional development of your grandchildren and show that they feel safe and loved.
Children develop their emotional security through familiar routines, known places, and people they love. When they move away from these, this can trigger a feeling of insecurity that manifests as homesickness. As grandparents, you can help your grandchildren understand that these feelings are normal and that it is okay to long for home. When you show that you take their feelings seriously and that you are there for them, you give your grandchildren the feeling that they are not alone.
It is important that you as grandparents understand that homesickness does not mean that your grandchildren do not enjoy the trip or that they are not able to make new experiences. Homesickness and the joy of new adventures can exist simultaneously. When you help your grandchildren accept and process both feelings, you support their emotional development and help them become confident and resilient people.
Recognizing and understanding homesickness
To be able to help your grandchildren with homesickness, it is important that you recognize the signs and understand how homesickness manifests in children. Not every child shows homesickness in the same way. Some grandchildren become sad and cry, others become quiet and withdrawn, others become irritable or restless. When you know the various signs, you can better respond to your grandchildren's needs.
As grandparents, you often have a good sense of when something is wrong with your grandchildren. When your grandchildren are on trips and you notice that they sound different than usual, seem sad, or withdraw, homesickness could be the cause. It is important that you respond empathetically and give your grandchildren the feeling that their feelings are okay and that you are there for them.
When you recognize homesickness in your grandchildren, you should not try to minimize or ignore the feelings. Instead, you should acknowledge the feelings and show your grandchildren that you understand how they feel. When you respond empathetically and supportively, you help your grandchildren deal with homesickness while also enjoying the trip.
Signs of homesickness
Homesickness can manifest in various ways. Some grandchildren become sad and cry when they think of home. Others become quiet and withdrawn and do not want to talk or play as much anymore. Others become irritable, restless, or have difficulty falling asleep. Some grandchildren also complain of physical symptoms such as stomach aches or headaches that can be triggered by homesickness.
As grandparents, you should pay attention to these signs, especially when your grandchildren are on trips and you call or write with them. When you notice that your grandchildren sound different than usual or seem sad, you should empathetically ask how they are doing. It is important that you do not try to ignore or minimize the feelings, but that you show that you take the feelings seriously.
It is also important to understand that homesickness can come in waves. Your grandchildren can be happy and excited one day and have strong homesickness the next day. This is completely normal and does not mean that the trip is bad or that your grandchildren are not able to deal with the situation. When you understand that homesickness can come and go, you can better respond to your grandchildren's needs.
Different manifestations
Not all grandchildren experience homesickness in the same way. Some have only mild homesickness that passes quickly, others suffer more from it. The intensity of homesickness depends on various factors: the child's age, the duration of separation, the distance from home, the type of trip, and the individual personality of the child.
Younger children often have stronger homesickness than older ones because they still rely more on familiar caregivers. Older children and adolescents can often deal better with homesickness because they have more experience with new situations and better understand that the separation is temporary. As grandparents, you should consider your grandchildren's individual needs and adjust your support accordingly.
It is important that you as grandparents understand that there is no "right" or "wrong" amount of homesickness. Every child is different, and every child has the right to have their feelings. When you respect your grandchildren's individual needs and show them that their feelings are okay, you help them deal with homesickness while also making new experiences.
Preparing for the trip
Good preparation can help ensure that homesickness is less intense or does not occur at all. As grandparents, you can support your grandchildren in preparing for the trip by talking together about the trip, answering questions, and easing fears. When your grandchildren know what to expect and that they can contact you at any time, they feel safer and are better prepared.
When you prepare for the trip together with your grandchildren, you can also pack familiar objects that help your grandchildren remember home. A photo of the family, a stuffed animal, a favorite book, or a small object that reminds them of home can help your grandchildren feel safer and ease homesickness.
It is also important that you talk with your grandchildren about communication during the trip. Agree on when and how you will stay in contact, and make sure your grandchildren know that they can talk with you at any time if they have homesickness. When your grandchildren know that you are there for them and that they are not alone, they feel safer and can better enjoy the trip.
Joint preparation
When you prepare for the trip together with your grandchildren, you can ease fears and build anticipation. Talk about the trip, show pictures of the destination, tell about similar trips you have made, and answer all questions your grandchildren have. When your grandchildren know what to expect, they feel better prepared and are less anxious.
You can also create a travel plan together that shows when your grandchildren will be where and when they can talk with you. Such a plan gives your grandchildren structure and security and helps them look forward to the trip. When you show that you are interested in the trip and that you support your grandchildren, you give them the feeling that they are not alone.
It is also important that you talk with your grandchildren about homesickness and explain that it is normal to long for home. When you show that homesickness is not a weakness and that it is okay to have these feelings, you help your grandchildren deal with homesickness if it occurs. When your grandchildren know that they can talk with you about their feelings, they feel safer and are better prepared.
Sending familiar objects
Familiar objects can help your grandchildren remember home and ease homesickness. A photo of the family, a stuffed animal, a favorite book, a small object that reminds them of home, or also a letter or card from you can help your grandchildren feel safer and maintain the connection to home.
When you think together with your grandchildren about which objects they want to take, you can also talk about the meaning of these objects. Explain that these objects can help remember home and that they can think at any time that you are there for them. When your grandchildren understand that these objects represent a connection to home, they can help them deal with homesickness.
You can also prepare something yourself for your grandchildren: a letter, a card, a small gift, or a surprise that your grandchildren can open during the trip. Such gestures show your grandchildren that you are thinking of them and that you are there for them, even when they are far away. When your grandchildren know that you are thinking of them, they feel loved and connected.
Staying in contact during the trip
Regular contact during the trip can help your grandchildren deal with homesickness and maintain the connection to home. As grandparents, you can use various ways to stay in contact with your grandchildren: phone calls, video calls, messages, letters, or also small surprises that you can send by mail.
It is important that you do not overdo the contact, but find a healthy balance. Too much contact can cause your grandchildren to long even more for home, while too little contact can cause them to feel alone and abandoned. When you agree together with your grandchildren before the trip on when and how you will stay in contact, you can find a healthy balance.
When your grandchildren have homesickness and want to talk with you, you should always have time for them. Show that you are there for them, listen, comfort them, and remind them that the trip is temporary and that they will be home soon. When you respond empathetically and supportively, you help your grandchildren deal with homesickness while also enjoying the trip.
Regular communication
Regular communication is important to maintain the connection to home and help your grandchildren deal with homesickness. Agree before the trip on when and how you will stay in contact. Perhaps you can call briefly daily, write a message every other day, or make a video call once per week. It is important that you find a balance that is appropriate for your grandchildren and for the trip.
When you talk with your grandchildren, you should not only ask if they have homesickness, but also ask about positive experiences. Show interest in the trip, ask about activities your grandchildren have done, and encourage them to enjoy the trip. At the same time, you should also leave room for homesickness and show that it is okay to long for home.
It is also important that you do not put too much pressure or have too many expectations. When your grandchildren are busy or do not feel like talking, you should respect that. Show that you are there for them when they need you, but also give them room to enjoy the trip and make new experiences.
Creative contact options
In addition to phone calls and messages, you can also use creative ways to stay in contact with your grandchildren. For example, you can keep a travel journal together in which you both record your experiences. Or you can send small surprises by mail: a letter, a card, a small gift, or also photos from home.
You can also play games together, even when you are far apart. Perhaps you can play an online game together, read a book together and talk about it, or also start a project together that you can continue after the trip. Such activities help your grandchildren maintain the connection to home while also enjoying the trip.
Another creative option is to make plans together for the time after the trip. Talk about what you will do together when your grandchildren return, and show that you are looking forward to their return. When your grandchildren know that there is something to look forward to, this helps ease homesickness and build anticipation for the return home.
Strategies against homesickness
There are various strategies that can help your grandchildren deal with homesickness. As grandparents, you can help your grandchildren develop and apply these strategies. It is important that you understand that not every strategy works for every child and that you should consider your grandchildren's individual needs.
An important strategy is distraction: When your grandchildren are busy and experiencing new things, they think less about homesickness. Encourage your grandchildren to participate in activities, meet new friends, and enjoy the trip. At the same time, you should also leave room for homesickness and show that it is okay to long for home.
Another important strategy is to create positive memories. When your grandchildren have beautiful experiences on the trip, these memories can help ease homesickness. Encourage your grandchildren to take photos, keep a journal, or collect small souvenirs. These memories can help your grandchildren enjoy the trip while also maintaining the connection to home.
Distraction and activities
Distraction can be an effective strategy to ease homesickness. When your grandchildren are busy and experiencing new things, they think less about homesickness and can better enjoy the trip. Encourage your grandchildren to participate in activities, meet new friends, explore new places, and make new experiences.
It is important that you do not put pressure on your grandchildren, but that you encourage them to try new things. When your grandchildren feel uncomfortable or do not feel like it, you should respect that. Show that you take their feelings seriously, but also encourage them to make new experiences and enjoy the trip.
You can also think together with your grandchildren about which activities might interest them. Perhaps you can create a list of activities together that your grandchildren want to try on the trip. When your grandchildren know that you are interested in their interests and that you support them, they feel safer and are more motivated to try new things.
Creating positive memories
Positive memories can help your grandchildren deal with homesickness and enjoy the trip. Encourage your grandchildren to take photos, keep a journal, collect small souvenirs, or also tell stories about their experiences. These memories can help your grandchildren enjoy the trip while also maintaining the connection to home.
When you talk with your grandchildren about their experiences, show interest and encourage them to see the positive aspects of the trip. Ask about the beautiful moments, about the new friends they have met, and about the activities they have enjoyed. When your grandchildren learn to see the positive aspects of the trip, they can better cope with homesickness.
You can also make plans together with your grandchildren for the time after the trip. Talk about how you will share the memories, which photos you will look at together, and which stories you will tell. When your grandchildren know that they can share their experiences with you, they feel connected and are more motivated to create beautiful memories.
When homesickness is particularly strong
Sometimes homesickness can be particularly intense and strongly burden your grandchildren. In such situations, it is important that you as grandparents respond empathetically and support your grandchildren. Show that you take their feelings seriously, listen, comfort them, and help them develop strategies to deal with strong homesickness.
When homesickness is particularly strong, you should not try to minimize or ignore the feelings. Instead, you should acknowledge the feelings and show your grandchildren that you understand how they feel. When you respond empathetically and supportively, you help your grandchildren deal with strong homesickness while also enjoying the trip.
In some cases, it can also be helpful to talk with the caregivers or teachers who are traveling with your grandchildren. These can help you better understand the situation and develop strategies together to help your grandchildren. When you show that you are willing to get help and find solutions together, you give your grandchildren the feeling that they are not alone.
Taking seriously and supporting
When homesickness is particularly strong, it is important that you as grandparents take your grandchildren's feelings seriously and support them. Show that you understand how they feel, listen, comfort them, and help them develop strategies to deal with strong homesickness. When you respond empathetically and supportively, you help your grandchildren deal with strong homesickness.
It is important that you do not try to minimize or ignore the feelings. Instead, you should acknowledge the feelings and show your grandchildren that it is okay to long for home. When you show that you take their feelings seriously and that you are there for them, you give your grandchildren the feeling that they are not alone and that their feelings are important.
You can also develop strategies together with your grandchildren to deal with strong homesickness. Perhaps you can think together about what might help: more contact, distraction, positive memories, or also simply the knowledge that the trip is temporary. When you find solutions together, you help your grandchildren cope with strong homesickness while also enjoying the trip.
When professional help is needed
In most cases, homesickness is normal and can be dealt with with support from family and friends. In some cases, however, it can be helpful to seek professional help, especially when homesickness is very intense, lasts for a longer period, or impairs your grandchildren's ability to enjoy the trip or perform everyday activities.
When you notice that your grandchildren's homesickness is particularly strong or that it impairs their ability to enjoy the trip, you should talk with the caregivers or teachers who are traveling with your grandchildren. These can help you better understand the situation and develop strategies together. In some cases, it can also be helpful to contact a child psychologist or counseling center.
It is important that you as grandparents understand that professional help is not a weakness, but a way to help your grandchildren. When you show that you are willing to get help and find solutions together, you give your grandchildren the feeling that they are not alone and that their feelings are important. Professional help can help your grandchildren develop strategies to deal with homesickness while also enjoying the trip.
After the trip: Accompanying the return home
When your grandchildren return from the trip, it is important that you as grandparents accompany the return home and support your grandchildren in processing the experiences. Show interest in the experiences, listen when your grandchildren tell about the trip, and help them process the positive and negative aspects of the trip.
It is also important that you leave room for the experiences and that you do not try to learn everything immediately. Your grandchildren need time to process the trip and sort their experiences. When you are patient and leave room for the experiences, you help your grandchildren process the trip and preserve the memories.
When you share the experiences together with your grandchildren, you can also talk about homesickness and how your grandchildren dealt with it. Show that you are proud of your grandchildren that they mastered the trip, and that you understand how difficult it sometimes was. When you value the experiences and acknowledge the challenges, you help your grandchildren learn and grow from the trip.
Signs of homesickness in children
Contact options during the trip
Strategies against homesickness
Tips for preparing for the trip
- Talk together about the trip and answer questions
- Pack familiar objects (photo, stuffed animal, book)
- Agree on communication plan for during the trip
- Talk about homesickness and show that it is normal
- Prepare small surprises for during the trip
- Create travel plan that gives structure and security
Creative ideas for contact during the trip
- Keep a travel journal together
- Send small surprises by mail
- Play online games together
- Read a book together and talk about it
- Make plans for the time after the trip
- Send photos from home
How you can help your grandchildren with homesickness
- Listen empathetically and take feelings seriously
- Show that homesickness is normal and okay
- Offer regular contact and have time for conversations
- Encourage making new experiences and enjoying the trip
- Create positive memories and talk about experiences
- Develop strategies together to deal with homesickness